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Thursday, August 22, 2019

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Get Motivated to Break Your Bad Habits

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Is there an area in your life that you’d like to change and find it hard to do? What’s stopping you? What makes it so hard?
I’d bet that what prevents you from improving your life, whether it’s your health, finances or relationships, is lack of self discipline. In other words – your inability to change yourself – your mindset and your behavior.
Think about it for a moment…
You can have all the knowledge, the best tools, the latest gadgets and program, but in the end of the day, it’s all about being able break some bad habits or to adopt new ones.
Most times it’s a combination of both - replacing a bad habit with a good one.
By the way, if you can’t spot a bad habit that you need to break, but simply want to start a new one, treat the ‘lack of habit’ as your bad habit.
For example: Your bad habit may be ‘not exercising’ or ‘not calling mom’.
The fact that you’re reading this means that you are aware of having a problem. That’s a start, but if you want gain control over your habits, you must put aside all excuses, stop blaming other people or your life consequences and take full responsibility for your own actions.
Next – especially if you’ve become aware of your problem only lately, I recommend that you take some time to get to know yourself a little better…

Become Fully Aware of Your Habits

Self consciousness can be very powerful. Sometimes (rarely) people change just by becoming fully aware of their behavior and its consequences.
I suggest that you spend some time examining your behavior and your thought patterns. Just pay attention, become conscious of your actions, thoughts and feelings.
It’s as if you’re stepping out of your body, watching yourself from the side and reading your mind…
You can get more out of it by asking yourself questions, like:
“Why am I doing this right now?” or
“Am I really enjoying it?” or
“What would I really like to be doing right now instead?”
You may also want to ask friends and family for their own point of view on your behavior.
If you do this right you should be able to identify things like what triggers your unwanted behavior and what excuses you make to yourself for doing it. You may also discover more ways of which your negative behavior affects you and others.
If you like, you can write some of these things down. It doesn’t have to be as obligating as writing a daily journal. You can simply jot down a few notes here and there for the sake of clarity.
When you feel that you have a clear enough picture, move on to the next step…

Raise the Motivation to Break Your Bad Habits

First off, if you’ve identified a few behaviors that you want to change,  it’d be a good idea to narrow your focus. Don’t try to break more than one big habit at a time.
It’s best to focus your energy, at most, on one bad habit to break and one new habit to adopt.
Next, you should identify some really powerful reasons for breaking the habit. It can be one big reason or a few smaller ones, but make sure they press some “emotional buttons”. I call this - finding your WHY.
Brainstorming is a great way to do it…
(If you have a better idea go ahead and do it, but don’t just skip this step because it looks odd to you.)
Take a sheet of paper and on the top write down something like:
“How will stopping ______ will improve my life”
Now start writing. Go for quantity and avoid judgment. Write down what comes up in your mind. Try to write at least 50 items.
Some items might be reasons to quit the habit, others may be how your life would be without it. Some may be as long as a paragraph and some may be one word.
Think about it from different angels. You can ask yourself questions like “why?” or “how?” after every line. For example: “It hurts my children” – you ask “how?” and answer it. Or – “I hate myself for doing it” – you ask “why?” and so on.
When you’re done, go over your list, tidy it up a little and pick your top, most motivating reasons – the ones that touch you emotionally. Don’t make it a long list. I would say – go for a list that you can remember easily by heart.
Write your ‘why’ neatly on a clean sheet of paper and keep it in a safe place.
The next step would be to plan your ‘recovery’, which I’ll talk about in my next post. Until then, feel free to add your comment – you might find it helpful to tell everyone about your habit and your top reasons to break it.
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