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Thursday, August 22, 2019

Six Important Rules to Follow while for Break Bad Habits

Imagine you could easily change any habit – break a bad habit or start a good habit at the snap of your fingers…
Break Bad Habits
Break Bad Habits 

It’s pretty clear that your life would never be the same again, right?
Well, we all wish changing habits were that easy, but you know what?
You CAN get rid of all your bad habits, replace them with healthy and empowering ones, and start seeing great improvements in every area of your life…
You simply need to want it badly enough, take one step at a time and follow these rules:

Rule 1: Have a Bigger Goal than Just Changing One Habit

Your goal should be more motivating and inspiring than just wanting to change a certain habit. It should be part of an overall improvement in your lifestyle and frame of mind.
It’s not just about stopping to eat junk food – it’s about leading a healthy lifestyle. It’s not just about watching less TV, it’s about becoming a more active and productive person.
Instead of focusing on what you want to avoid doing, focus on what you want – the kind of life you want to live, the kind of person you’d like to be.
If you want to stop negative thinking, for example, you need to focus on the positive – create inspiring goals, have an interesting and enjoyable life.
Give it some thought, if you haven’t already. You may want to describe the new you or your new lifestyle in writing. You may want to do some visualization exercises or create a ‘vision board’ were you put pictures that describe the lifestyle that you want to have, whatever feels right for you.

Rule 2: Changing the Habit Must Be a Top Priority

What’s on your mind these days? Trouble at work? The house is a mess? Your child is sick?
I’m not implying that you should push important things down to the bottom of your list, but if you say to yourself – “I want to start exercising” and then let life ‘get in the way’, you’ll never do it.
Give the ‘habit change’ high importance. It should be on your to-do list or in your diary, it should be on your mind when you go to sleep and when you wake up.
(If you haven’t yet, make a list of your top reasons for changing your habits)
If you put enough energy and focused attention on the change that you want to create, nothing can stop you. (If you take only one thing from here today, this should be it.)

Rule 3: Changing Habits is a Gradual Process

Some people, in some cases, can make a firm decision and stick with it. They can decide that they stop smoking, for example, and they never smoke again. That’s very rare though. In most cases it’s best to make the change gradual…
Choose one behavior that you want to change or create – it’s best to focus on just one habit to break and one habit to replace it. Be clear about the exact end result that you’re after.
Set the deadline and then go backwards from there and plan the steps. Get creative and I’m sure you’ll find a pretty good plan. If you get stuck, don’t worry about it. Just plan the first step…
Think of a small, yet challenging change that you can start tomorrow. Don’t miss the “challenging” part. Setting too small steps would be a way of fooling yourself and probably won’t work. Set steps that will be a bit challenging, but doable.
You can set yourself small rules to follow, like:
- This week I will not watch TV while I eat.
- In the next three days, my second cup of coffee will be a decaf.
- From tomorrow on, as soon as I get out of bed, I put on my sneakers.
Some say you should reward yourself for your successes along the way. I’ve personally never saw the point in doing that. I think that achieving your self-change goals is enough of a reward. I also think that by rewarding yourself you focus…well, I could go on and on about this. Bottom line – do what feel right for you.

Rule 4: Be Prepared for Temptations

There are times when we are weaker than on others. It’s usually when we’re under some physical or mental pressure – when we’re tired, hungry or thirsty, under stress, afraid or angry. On such moments we tend to have trouble controlling our behavior.
Often you can avoid getting into such situation with a little bit of planning. You can, for example, make sure to get enough sleep or to keep a bottle of water at hand.
If it’s too late and you find yourself in one of those situations, do your best to step away from it. Sometimes all you need is to set your mind off of things for a few minutes, change your perspective, and relax.
A few known ways to do that are to take a bathroom break, meditate for a few minutes, take a few deep breathes or do some stretching.
Make sure to prepare yourself in advance by planning what you will do when you feel tempted…
For example: If you tend to drink when you’re stresses (and you want to avoid doing that), you can say to yourself – “When I need to relax, I will go to the bathroom, wash my face and take a few deep breathes” or something like that.

Rule 5: Stay Positive and Be Ready to Fail

Change is scary, but it’s important that you stay calm, optimistic and confident through the whole process. Avoid complaining and moping and do not be afraid to fail. In fact – be prepared to fail…
You see, there’s a good chance that somewhere along the way you will get tempted and slip back to your old behavior. If you see it as total failure, that’s exactly what it would be.
Don’t beat yourself up when you fail. Self resentment will only do more harm. Instead, be ready for failure and see it as part of the process, a temporary setback. Simply put it behind you and get back on track.

Rule 6: Keep Going and Never Look Back

There will come a time that you’d think you are over you old habit and be tempted to test yourself. Don’t.
O.K, I admit it may sound a bit extreme and it’s true that some behaviors are OK in moderation. I trust your judgment on this…
For example: If you’ve taken control over your TV addiction, you may make a conscious decision to watch a movie twice a week. If you’re almost tempted to watch another movie, that’s clearly a warning sign.
Once you’ve really got rid of the old habit, you won’t need to test it. You will feel that you’ve changed from within and have become a different person – one that you like better than the old one.
Please share your stories – what habits have you tried (or succeeded) to change? Do you have anything to add to the six rules above?

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