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Friday, August 9, 2019

Stress(A Psychologist answers your questions about)


                       A Psychologist answers your questions about:

Q. What is stress?
A. Stress is that tense feeling that we get when we are threatened, worried, or scared. We are all under stress every day, however, problems begin when we have an excessive amount.
Q. Where does stress come from?
A. Stress is usually caused by physical or psychological factors. For example, an injury, extreme change in temperature, exhaustion, or various irritants are some types of physical stress. On the other hand, psychological stress involves threats about uncertainty, fear of loss of security and safety, and fear of change. These fears include, but of course are not limited to, such things as death of a spouse, real or feared divorce, death of a family member, marriage, pregnancy, financial problems, violations of the law, moving, and yes, even vacations.
Q. This sounds as if stress is harmful, yet you said that everybody has some stress?
A. We all need a certain amount of stress. It's what gets us out of bed in the morning. Without it, we wouldn't think, move, or care about anything. The problem begins when the stress becomes excessive. A body that is under stress at all times will eventually collapse from exhaustion. In fact, current research indicates a possible relationship between stress and such conditions as heartdisease, asthma, ulcers, headaches, common colds and other illnesses.
Q. Does excessive stress require one to seek professional help?
A. Sometimes. However, there are many things you can do to control and reduce stress on your own.
Q. What are some of those things?
A. For one thing, you can display avoidance behavior. That is, stay away from noisy and/or crowded environments. Try to realize what you can and cannot change. Exercise (without pushing) can be a source of stress reduction. Try to exercise effortlessly by not taking the parking space nearest the building, walking up the stairs rather than using the elevator, etc. Try to relax and rest by developing interesting hobbies. Attempt to get some good sleep.
Q. What if, after I try all those things I still feel stressed?
A. When stress builds up and doesn't seem to go away, professional help might be necessary.
Q. How do I find an appropriate professional?
A. Consult with your family physician or clergyman. Tell them about your difficulty and ask them to refer you to a competent person. The professional is usually a psychologist, psychiatrist or, in some cases, a social worker.
Q. Will I see the person alone or in a group?
A. This is decided by you and your therapist, but both methods are effective.

                               Stress Quiz

  • Do you feel fatigued even though you have not had physical exertion?
  • Do you usually have tense muscles, tight neck or shoulders?
  • Is sleeping a problem? That is, do you have trouble falling asleep, or do you wake earlier than you want to?
  • Are you constantly bored, depressed or lack interest in most things?
  • Do you find yourself drinking more in order to feel calm or to try to escape daily problems?
  • Do you engage in irregular eating? That is, eating too much or too little?
  • Do you suffer from digestive distress such as diarrhea, cramps or constipation?
  • Do you feel restless most of the time and can't think of a specific cause?
  • Do you have heart palpitations or heart skips even though your doctor tells you that there is nothing physically wrong with you?
  • Are you bothered by unfounded fears, enclosed places, heights, etc.?
If you answered yes to some of these questions you may have a problem with stress.

You will find help in Dr. Perino's book:

I think I'm hopeless... but I could be wrong.
A guide to building Self-Confidence

Joseph Perino, Ph.D.

Chapter 1
•Does This Sound Like You? •Shyness •Sensitivity And Self-Consciousness •Loneliness, Depression Or Anxiety •Self-Defeating Thoughts •Relationships •Getting Started •Just What Is Self Confidence •Self-Confidence Is Not An Absolute •Cyclical Thinking •Risk Taking •How This Book Will Help You •How Long Will It Take? •Things To Remember
Chapter 2
•Describing Yourself To You And Others •Who Am I •Physical Attributes •Appearance •Social Interaction •Personality •Family Relationships •Well Adjusted •Vocational •Activities Of Daily Living •Thinking Ability •Sexuality •Self-Inventory •Things To Remember
Chapter 3
•Who Said You Had To Be Perfect? •Setting The Standard •Self-Fulfilling Prophecy •Helping Others To Draw Negative Conclusions •Avoiding Rejection •Behavioral Signs Of Low Self-Confidence •Thinking Patterns Of Low Self-Confidence •Physiological Aspects Of Low Self-Confidence •Things To Remember
Chapter 4
•Faulty Cognition •Self-Confidence Quiz •What About When Others Criticize Me •Words Are More Than Just Words •How Self-Esteem Begins •Distorted Self-Talk •Some Cognitive Distortions •Things To Remember
Chapter 5
•Thoughts And Vocabulary Of Inequality •Preview Questions •Personal Enemy Number •Personal Ally Number •Blame And More Blame •The World Of Should •Was I Born With This Enemy? •But Parents Have To Criticize Sometimes •Is A Person Bad Or Different? •Are Parents Effective Models? •Things To Remember
Chapter 6
•Why I Listen To My Personal Enemy •Everyone Wants To Be Loved •Is This Enemy Of Any Value? •Some Other Characteristics Of The Enemy •Listen To Your Self-Talk •Try This •Things To Remember
Chapter 7
•Things Your Parents Forgot To Tell You •Just Like Acting On A Stage •Rewriting The Script •Why Didn't My Parents Teach Me About Self-Confidence? •How Was I Raised? •Personal Power •My Score •Things To Remember
Chapter 8
•Constructive Visualization •If You Can't Imagine It, It Can't Happen •Rewrite Some Scripts •A Parent Script •Some Hints •Things To Remember
Chapter 9
•Rewriting The Script •Outline For Success •Getting Started In Social Situations •What If I Can't Find Anyone To Talk To? •Development Of Problem Solving Skills •Things To Remember
Chapter 10
•What Do I Do Now? •Self-Help Books •Cognitive Behavioral Therapy •Cognitive Restructuring •Some Important Questions •Things To Remember

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